Grief and Loss/Adjustment
The loss of a significant relationship or the death of a loved one can trigger grief. For most who grieve, it is some comfort to know that the pain is normal under the circumstances and that others have shared a similar experience and eventually achieved a resolution.
Normal grief reactions include the following questions and statements. "Is there a right way to grieve?" "Why do I feel so out of control?" "I'm so glad it's over. Is that wrong?" "I never knew it would hurt so bad!" "I feel so relieved."
Other normal symptoms of grief are:
- I feel as if it isn't real.
- I feel a tightness in my throat and a heaviness in my chest.
- My mood changes over the slightest things.
- What is there left for me to live for?
- Sometimes I feel angry.
- I cry at unexpected times.
- I don't want others to see me when I feel sad.
- I can't concentrate.
- I sense my loved ones presence, like hearing their voice.
- I feel like my mind is on a merry-go-round that will not stop.
- I have trouble sleeping.
- I don't feel hungry.
- I'm eating all the time.
- I have an empty feeling.
- I miss being touched.
- I miss having someone help me make decisions.
- I'm so lonely.
These grief responses are all natural and normal after a loss. It is important to reach out and talk with people and to cry when you need to.
While profound grief is not a sign of mental illness, many people who experience it for a prolonged period may benefit from counseling to help work through unresolved issues. If you need assistance call the University Counseling Center at 279-4347.
Death/Trauma Loss Support
Relationship and Learning Center
First Candle/SIDS Alliance
Center for Loss in Multiple Birth
Grief Recovery After A Substance Passing
Surviving the Emotional Trauma of Divorce